As you go into 2016 there are 3 words I would like for you to remember…Start. Stop. Continue.
Start doing the things that you’ve been thinking about but haven’t put into action. Do the things that take you further down the road on your journey to becoming extraordinary. Go ahead and write that book. Take that extra class. Get the certification. Declutter your house. Say “yes” to the one in a lifetime opportunities. Finally have that difficult conversation that you know that you need to have. Take time for yourself.
Stop doing the things that aren’t feeding you nutritionally, spiritually or emotionally. Just stop. Stop doing the things that hold you back from doing the things that you want and need to do. Stop holding on to toxic relationships. Stop allowing people to use you as an emotional dumping ground. Stop telling yourself you can’t do something.
Continue to do the things that make you happy. Continue to do the things that make you smile from the inside. Continue to do the things that make your creative heart happy and make your eyes twinkle. Continue to do the things that contribute to making other people lives better. Continue doing the things that you know you were created to do.
What will you Start…Stop…Continue?
I’ve heard this a dozen times, if not more, at various conferences I’ve attended throughout the years. And while I’m sure the speakers mean well and they say it because it’s catchy or to motivate attendees to stretch beyond their comfort zone, I often wonder if it does more harm than good. It makes the assumption that if you aren’t scared of your dream, then it’s not worth having. Not every dream will scare you. And if it doesn’t, whose to say that it’s not big enough? Let’s face it, not everyone has dreams of being a billionaire and a CEO. Some people dream of getting an advanced degree so that they can pursue their dream of serving the community as an elected official. Some people dream of saving money to take their love ones on a once-in-a-lifetime trip. For those people, their dream is big and it may not necessarily scare them. Does it mean it’s not big enough? Absolutely not.
Ignore the “dream shamers” and keep pursuing your dreams whether they scare you are not. Uncertainty about the unknown can cause anxiety but do not let your dreams scare you. Let them exhilarate you and propel you towards being extraordinary.
I don’t believe in making new year resolutions. My birthday starts my new year and use that day to reflect the past year. I think about my successes, my failures/lessons and unexplained blessings. It’s the beginning of promises that I make to myself. Some of them have been very simple like drink more water everyday to the complex like learn to acknowledge my emotions without being controlled by them. Here are the top 10 lessons I’ve learned in my 43rd year:
- It’s okay to say no. (Repeated lesson…with daily reminders.)
- The little birdie has yet to be wrong about anything. (Absolutely nothing.)
- Creativity requires time and space to breathe and expand in as many different formats as possible. (Stop limiting yourself.)
- Work Your Package is a movement and it’s not all about me. I’m the facilitator and catalyst of change…and I’m okay with that. (Collaboration with others who are just as passion about helping others is awesome.)
- Dimming my light for fear that I might outshine others is no longer an option. (It’s like slapping your blessings in the face. SHINE ON!)
- Recharging and taking time for yourself is a mandatory requirement. (You can’t give to others when you are depleted.)
- Seeing other people succeed makes me happy. (Like seriously outrageously happy.)
- The act of helping others achieve their goals eliminates the amount of space in my head available for worry or doubt. (See #7. If I’m helping, I don’t have time to worry.)
- Luck doesn’t present itself to those who don’t seek opportunity. (If you are waiting for luck, you will be waiting a long time. Make your own luck.)
- No matter how many times and how many ways someone tries to sabotage you, stay focused on your goal. (Stay in YOUR lane…there’s no traffic or speed limit.)
Of course there are many other lessons, but do you really want to see a list of 43 things? Probably not. My hope is that you will see the fruits of my lessons in my 44th year. There are some big things coming up like my novel (finally), a second “Work Your Package” book (the first is available on Amazon) and the 3rd annual Work Your Package Women’s Conference 2016, a weekend long event. My 44th year will be epic!
What lessons have you learned this year? How will those lessons help you achieve your goals next year?
Psst! Registration is open for the Work Your Package Women’s Conference 2016!
As a little girl, I loved to color. My mother would give me a Crayola set of 64 crayons and a coloring book and I would be quiet and content for hours. Fast forward a few decades and adult coloring books have been introduced to the mainstream. Long used by therapists and psychologist to aid in the treatment of anxiety, PSTD and depression, these adult coloring books are popping up in stores everywhere. Hailed as a way to relax and decompress, I did not need convincing. I’m an avid doodler, especially during long meetings and training classes so I took to an adult coloring book like a fish to water. I bought my first book and set of colored pencils and used them the following day while I enjoyed a cup of coffee. You might think it’s bologna but I swear my thoughts were clearer and more focused for the rest of the day. There’s something about the repetitive nature of filling in patterns that is cathartic and takes the edge off the day. The best part is that you don’t have to know how to draw to create a beautiful work of art. Depending on how intricate the outline is, you can have a beautiful picture in about an hour or two. I know, I know… I don’t have the time to color. Track your 168 and find the time. You can take 30 minutes to tell your brain to shut up and focus on lines, swirls, animals, hearts or whatever else is on the page. For creative types, it will spark new ideas. For the analytical folks, it will allow your brain to have enough down time for you to solve what keeps you up at night. My girls think my book is kinda cool. My husband doesn’t get it. My mother just smiled when she saw my coloring book and asked if I wanted some more books.
If you have not heard of or seen these amazing pieces of calm here are a few links to get you started:
Barnes and Noble http://www.barnesandnoble.com/mobile/s/adult+coloring+books
I would love to see your creations once you get started.
You will never be perfect.
There I said it. I’m talking to myself, too. My Type A personality trait wrote 10 different drafts of this post before my need to be transparent took over. Blame it on the fact that I’m a recovering people pleaser or that it has finally sunk in that this blog is read in 81 countries. Either way, the desire to provide something of quality and not fluff is important to me. However, the need for perfection thwarts progress.
You will never be perfect but you have to start somewhere and do something. Someone right now is sitting on ingenious idea that will make them tons of money and create a legacy for their family but they won’t release it because it isn’t perfect. Someone is re-reading their draft which can be the next great American novel for the twentieth time instead of sending to a publisher. There’s a project your supervisor or client is waiting for and you are at the verge of not meeting your deadline because you think the report needs “just one more thing”.
Vince Lombardi, one of the greatest football coaches of all time said, “Perfection is not attainable but when we chase perfection, we can catch excellence.” In the midst of striving for perfection, you will push yourself outside of your comfort zone…which is a GOOD…no GREAT thing. Worse things could happen. But doing nothing because you are paralyzed by fear doesn’t make space for growth or improvement. Yes, I said the “f” word and I will talk about that more later. Oh what the heck, let’s talk about it right now. Did you know that paralysis of perfectionism is based in fear? What are you afraid of? Who are you afraid of disappointing? If you fail…SO WHAT. There are valuable lessons to learn that only present themselves when you fail.
Don’t allow the fear of failure keep you from getting stuff done and being extraordinary.
P.S. Registration is open for the Work Your Package Women’s Conference 2016! Click here to register!