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Month: January 2014

How Simple Life Can Really Be

How Simple Life Can Really Be

There’s a lot on my plate these days so here’s a post from a guest blogger aka my baby brother, Darian Mobley…

Things seem to be so complicated and stressful, but why? Is it all so overwhelming or is that what you are making it? When the instruction list four steps, do you take six? Have your prioritized your life? Once you make that list, look at it then check off what has been taken care of. Family, health, finance and your children’s safety should be everybody’s top three. After that, what is worth stressing or going crazy over? Be real and realize what you really need in your life. Once you do that, everything else will fall into place. Analyze your wants and you will probably see how unimportant they are. Some are necessary because they help keep your sanity. So you must prioritize your wants also.

While you simplify your life remember to humble yourself. Be honest with yourself because nobody knows what you need better than you. Never forget how strong you are and what you are capable of. Life can be so much easier when you just take the time to simplify. Do you really need this? Does this person’s opinion really matter? Are my wants meaningless? Do I give what I want from people? Like I said, be honest with yourself, it leads to a greater knowledge of self. When you truly know yourself you’ll be able to simplify your life much easier. Remember happiness starts within you before it hits your life and family. I hope that my idea of simplifying your life makes sense. I’ve done it (hell, I had no choice) and found that I was worrying about things that really held no weight in my life. Losing that negative weight is uplifting and mentally healthy. I think if you sit down with a pend and a pad and make a list of what’s truly important, you’ll see that all that other stuff is irrelevant. Simply and stick to your new game plan. Love more and stress less.

Work Your Package™ – Admirable

Work Your Package™ – Admirable

Work Your Package logo_v9Admirable—Truly gifted women are admired not just for their talents but for their willingness to share it unselfishly with others.

What is the purpose of having talent if you aren’t going to share it?The type of talent I’m referring to has nothing to do with singing, dancing or playing sports. This is about having a natural and innate comprehension of how to do something well on a broader perspective. Being confident in the talents you possess doesn’t make you cocky or arrogant but thinking that you should be the only beneficiary from that talent is a tragedy. There many talents that could be listed, but the talents listed below, if shared, can have a positive impact on humanity:

I know we live in a world of “What’s in it for me” but when you operate in the mode of “How can I benefit someone else” it allows you to share your talents without inhibition or fear of being taken advantage of. Think about the talents you naturally possess. Now think about the last time you used them to benefit of someone else without the caveat of receiving something in return. If you have to think about it, then it has been too long since you have used them.

 

 

 

Adapted from “Work Your Package—A Guide to Being the Total Package” by Ayanna Castro
Website: www.ayannacastro.com | Twitter: @WorkYourPackage | Facebook: Work Your Package
Copyright © 2014 Ayanna Castro. All Rights Reserved.

Work Your Package™ – Knowledge

Work Your Package™ – Knowledge

Work Your Package logo_v9Knowledge—Make a point to learn something new every day and share it with others.

To know what you know and what you do not know, that is true knowledge. ~ Confucius 

Let that sink in for a minute. Knowing that you don’t know is true knowledge. Learning something new everyday will push you out of your comfort zone. The result of leaving your comfort zone is growth. When you grow, you are more likely to learn something new which will push you further…do you see where I’m going with this?

There are dozens of websites available you can subscribe to receive daily tidbits of information. For example, Wikipedia offers a “featured article” list that randomly chooses an article everyday from it’s huge archive of articles. Is there a home improvement project that you want to tackle but don’t have a clue how to get started? There are over a half a million videos (with numbers increasing everyday) posted on YouTube™. Want to further your understanding of psychology or brush up on accounting? There are college courses available for free, many from Ivy League schools such as Harvard, Columbia, Princeton and Yale just to name a few.

Are you already taking the time to educate yourself every day? Often times I find that the best part of learning something new is sharing what I’ve learned with others (I’m a Maven for a reason). When you share what you know, it encourages a conversation and a reciprocal exchange of information. It’s a win-win for everyone.

 

Adapted from “Work Your Package—A Guide to Being the Total Package” by Ayanna Castro
Website: www.ayannacastro.com | Twitter: @WorkYourPackage | Facebook: Work Your Package
Copyright © 2014 Ayanna Castro. All Rights Reserved.

Work Your Package™ – Capable

Work Your Package™ – Capable

Work Your Package logo_v9Capable— Remove the word ‘can’t’ from your vocabulary.

Nothing irritates me more than hearing my kids telling me that they can’t do something. My response is so visceral, I often have to count to three before I respond with, “Don’t tell me can’t. Tell me you need help.” I’ve said this so many times, they have begun to stop themselves in mid-sentence. Telling yourself that you can’t do something is self-defeating and useless. The time you spend telling yourself you can’t is time you can spend figuring how you can.

Can I be honest with you for a minute? I think saying that you can’t do something is a cop out and indicates fear of trying at the risk of failure. The fear of failure will keep you stagnant and unable to see how very capable you are of doing just about anything you put your mind to. The phrase “mind over matter” annoys me because sometimes the “matter” are the obstacles that show up in everyday life. A single mother who has the desire future her education by back to school has the “mind” to go but the “matter” such as finding childcare, getting financial aid is an obstacle. The woman has two options, roll over in defeat and say “I can’t do this” or do what my mother did which was to fulfill her dreams despite her circumstances.

I’ll admit that I’m jaded because of my upbringing. In my mother’s house, the word “can’t” was just as bad as cussing. Before you say can’t do something, make a list all of the things that you have accomplished.  I’m willing to bet your list full of things that you once thought you once were impossible. You are far more capable that what you give yourself credit for, I’m sure of it. Don’t roll your eyes at me, you know I’m telling the truth. Doing something starts with believing you can.

“What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.” Tony Robbins

 

Adapted from “Work Your Package—A Guide to Being the Total Package” by Ayanna Castro
Website: www.ayannacastro.com | Twitter: @WorkYourPackage | Facebook: Work Your Package
Copyright © 2014 Ayanna Castro. All Rights Reserved.

Inaugural Work Your Package™ Event

Inaugural Work Your Package™ Event

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In 2004, I coined a phrase that when heard, has made women of all ages and backgrounds smile and realize they were more than enough…beautiful enough, smart enough and talented enough. The Work Your Package™ message is not just about a woman’s age or physical appearance, it encompasses all the different facets of her life that make her complete such as health, finances, family and relationships, personal branding, style and beauty. It is about how she navigates turbulence when things do not go as planned; and how she pays it forward when she has overcome an obstacle.

On Saturday, April 26, 2014, the inaugural Work Your Package™ event will be hosted at the Sheraton College Park North located in Beltsville, Maryland from 1:00pm to 5:00pm. The event serves to educate and encourage women from all walks of life to look beyond what they see in the mirror and realize they are already the “total package”.

Registration, exhibitor and sponsorship information can be found here: http://workyourpackage2014.eventbrite.com